Pregnancy and Your Options

Preganancy following rape happens more often than you might realize. Almost three million women in the U.S. have experienced rape-related pregnancy during their lifetime. If you are pregnant as a result of rape, you may be experiencing intense and overwhelming emotions, and pregnancy hormones can increase the intensity even more. Your feelings about the pregnancy may be straightforward, and include sadness, anger or fear, but they might also be conflicted. For example, you might really want to continue the pregnancy and have a baby, while still feeling traumatized by the way the conception took place.

Rape related preganacy is also made more difficult and complicated by the ongoing political fight over reproductive freedom. In the U.S., state governments and the courts are restricting abortion access in ways that limit options for pregnant survivors. In addition to the very real trauma that this inflicts on pregnant rape victims, seeing politicians, justices, journalists and celebrities talking about abortion and particularly pregancy options following sexual violence may be traumatic for you. 

The most important thing for you to know if you are pregnant is that you have options, and they are all equally valid. Trusting yourself to make the best choice for yourself is what matters most. In this section, we will outline a number of choices that you can make if you become pregnant following an assault. We aim to give you as much unbiased information as possible, so that you can make the best decision for you. This decision may be different from the decisions that others in the same situation have made, and that is perfectly ok. What is right for one person is not necessarily right for another. Other people in your life may try to pressure you to make a particular choice regarding your pregnancy, but just remember, you have the right to confidential reproductive care  , even if you are still a teen, and  the choice of what do is yours and yours alone.

What are your options?

If you are pregnant, as the result of a sexual assault, you have several options. You can carry the pregnancy to term and keep the baby, carry the pregnancy to term and put the baby up for adoption, or get an abortion. These general resources provide insight into these options and can help guide your informed decision:

Where to go for Abortion
  • For some, abortion is the right choice. Whatever your reason is for having an abortion, it is your choice and you have every right to make that decision for yourself. In many places throughout the U.S., it is becoming harder to have an abortion legally. Planned parenthood and other resources can assist you in finding a clinic or office to have a safe abortion based on where you live. 

    Canada: Sexual Health Services Search

Where to go to Keep the Baby
  • For some, keeping the baby is the right choice. If you wish to keep your baby, you should go to your OB GYN or GP for prenatal care. Friends and family may be an integral part of your support team, but your medical providers should also play a role in making sure you and your baby are healthy and safe. These resources include helpful information and links to guide you through the process of carrying a pregnancy to term, particularly as a teen/minor. 

    It is important to note that if you carry a pregnancy that is the result of rape to term, your rapist may be entitled to parental rights by the law. This varies state-by-state, and many states, along with the federal government, are making strides towards limiting parental rights in the case of rape related pregnancies. For information on your state’s policy, consult this resource from the National Conference of State Legislatures. 

Where to go for Adoption
  • In the US, private adoption is typically done through attorneys, but you may also reach out to adoption agencies, consultants and/or other adoption facilitators. The Adoption Network website has a fantastic infographic that walks you through the process of placing your child up for adoption step-by-step. You can request a free adoption packet with this link. They also provide post-adoption support for the birth mothers here.

    Some people will opt to carry the pregnancy to term and put the baby up for adoption. In Canada, the process varies by Province. The following links will take you to the page for a few of the province’s processes for placing a child up for adoption. The previous link in this paragraph will take you to the general page for adoption services in Canada.